9
months in my tummy, potentially the world of cravings, more aches and pains on
top of those I already live with on a daily basis, nausea, possible frequent
sickness, weight gain, stretch marks, fatigue, heightened emotions and the
rest! See all of that I can handle.... The fact that, although we live in such
a beautiful world, there are far too many horrid individuals living among us isn't
something I can handle.
Aged
14, or 15, I remember having a conversation with my mother about being a parent
one day and I said, "Mummy, I don't ever want to get married, or have
babies". She didn't question me, her response was, "okay, no
problem". At the time of sharing this post, I am 36, single and focused on
my goals and my feelings about parenthood remain the same. The thought of
becoming a mum sends my anxiety through the roof!
Not
that I feel a need to justify my decisions however, I am so over being
asked if I'm married and have any children, or when I'll settle down and start
a family, followed by looks of utter disgust and disappointment when I reply
with, "I have no intention of having a family of my own, thanks".
Since when did it become compulsory? I've no interest in doing such things. In
all honesty, the idea of getting married is absolutely fine although it would need to be incredibly low-key and inexpensive!
Life
provides no guarantee that you, or your loved ones will always be safe and
well. We can never know for sure if, when, or how we can protect those we love
from experiencing awful things in their lives so, I've chosen not to place that
burden or worry on myself any further by having children of my own! As I mentioned, the world is filled with far too much darkness for me to bring another human being into it who will, as a result of that darkness, have to go through way too many murky times. In addition to that, I just do not ever get that broody feeling when I'm around babies. I'm the one who will "coo", maybe hold them for a while and then smile real wide as I hand them back.
My
mind is and has been made up for a good 22 years and while I frigging adore
children so much, the role of auntie, occasional babysitter, youth worker etc
are more than enough for me. I get to contribute to the positive and
productive growth of our young people without becoming too emotionally involved
or attached.
I
think it is so wrong to try and make a woman [or man for that matter]
feel as though they exist only for the purpose of reproduction and, or to
imply that women above a certain age who are without a husband and children
have less of a place in society, or within a 'social' circle. My position in
this universe has nothing to do with whether or not I have, or will have a baby and everything to do with what I choose to contribute to the greater good of the world.
Although
I am really pleased for those who make the choice to do so, I do not want to
bring babies into this world and that, my readers, is that! The End!
Thanks for reading!
Spoken (written) like a true conscious person. As a mother I agree with you.
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